Relationship Counseling

Are You Struggling To Find Your People?

Have you been going through a period of loneliness and isolation?

Are you dealing with social anxiety and fear of rejection?

Do you feel like no matter how hard you try, you just can’t build the connections you crave?

Maybe you’re tired of putting yourself out there—you go on date after date and can’t seem to get anywhere with anyone. Perhaps your life lacks close friendships and you frequently find yourself with nothing to do on the weekends. This could leave you feeling empty, unwanted, and unworthy. Deep down, you may ask yourself: Will I ever find my people? Am I going to feel this way my whole life? Is it finally time to get professional support?

Even In Relationships, You May Feel Deeply Unhappy And Unfulfilled

Perhaps you’re in a long-term relationship, but you’ve found that your needs aren’t being met, your boundaries aren’t respected, and you’re not able to be your authentic self. Maybe you have a history of choosing unhealthy partners—you constantly end up with people who reinforce your anxious attachment style and make you feel like you’re not good enough. You may have grown up with poor relationship models around you and worry that you’ll end up in the same situation.

Whether you want to overcome dating anxiety, create more meaningful connections, or enrich the relationships you already have, we encourage you to pursue counseling with us. Here at Denver CAC, our counselors specialize in helping people work through relationship challenges, deepen their sense of self-worth, and connect with people who love and accept them.

Despite What Hollywood Might Suggest, Relationships Take Work

The movies and TV that we all grew up with told us that relationships would be easy. All we had to do was put ourselves out there and somebody would fall for us. In reality, however, finding a healthy relationship can feel like searching for a needle in a haystack. And in the age of online dating, finding one is harder than it’s ever been.

Between ghosting, catfishing, and the fatigue of having to choose from so many options, it’s no wonder dating anxiety is at an all-time high. Recent surveys have found that roughly half of all Americans report feeling stressed about their dating life.* Connections seem to come and go in the blink of an eye, and many of us get so caught up in the hustle and bustle of life that we have little time for relationships. As a result, more and more people are seeking professional help to deal with their dating challenges.

All Too Often, Our Unhealthy Self-Beliefs Perpetuate Relationship Issues

Many of us have limiting beliefs that stem from the relationships we experienced when we were younger. If we grew up in a household where we didn’t feel like we could safely express ourselves, we may have trouble doing so in relationships now. The same can happen if we grew up with parents who were demanding or didn’t respect our boundaries.

These experiences often lead to negative beliefs like “I’m not good enough” or “I’ll never find love and acceptance,” and these beliefs often become self-fulfilling prophecies. We end up in situations and relationships that confirm our negative beliefs, which only fuels our low self-esteem.

Sometimes all we need is a wise and compassionate professional who can help us challenge our perspective and reframe our thinking. When we learn to think differently, we start to act differently, and this changes how we show up in relationships.

Counseling Can Help You Create The Relationships You Deserve

Many of us expect healthy relationships to fall into our lap, but the truth is that relationship skills are something that we all have to learn. We aren’t born instinctively knowing how to build healthy connections. That’s why therapy is so important. It’s a chance to explore our relationship needs, break out of negative attachment cycles, adopt new styles of communication, and establish firmer boundaries.

At Denver CAC, we recognize that the first step in building better relationships is forming a better relationship with yourself. Our mission is to help you overcome your fears and grow in your confidence and resilience. You will learn to challenge limiting beliefs and trust your gut when it comes to relationships instead of just people-pleasing or doing what other people say.

Our therapists provide counseling for people navigating friendships, romantic relationships, family relationships, and even breakups. So no matter what unique relationship problems you bring to counseling, we’re confident that we can offer the support and guidance you need.

Tailoring Our Approach To Relationship Therapy

We draw from a wide range of approaches to help clients address unhealthy beliefs, improve their confidence, and learn to handle conflict more effectively. Some of these approaches are listed below:

Narrative Therapy—Oftentimes, our relationship fears stem from the unconscious narratives that we tell ourselves about our lives (e.g., “I’m not worthy of love”). Narrative therapy can help you understand where your fears came from and rewrite your story moving forward.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)—Like narrative therapy, CBT seeks to address negative beliefs at the heart of your relationship issues. It can help you go from feeling unworthy and unlovable to valued and worthy.
Mindfulness—This approach empowers you to communicate from a calmer and more regulated place, making it easier to wade through conflict and navigate difficult relationships.
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)—Most forms of trauma take place in the context of relationships. EMDR therapy can help you process and resolve traumatic experiences so that you feel safer and more secure in your relationships.

Right now, it may feel far-fetched to imagine a life with the connections you want. But we are here to tell you that with the right help and support, it is absolutely possible. Counseling can empower you to release guilt and shame, overcome the pain of the past, and create healthier relationships.

You May Have Some Questions About Relationship Counseling…

What if I’m lonely and don’t have meaningful relationships. Is this still for me?

Yes, this form of counseling is still for you! We can help you explore ways to build meaningful relationships and prepare for when you find them. Loneliness is an epidemic in today’s digital, post-pandemic world, so it’s important to recognize that you’re not alone. As a practice, we’ve helped many people overcome loneliness and find the closeness, happiness, and intimacy they deserve—we’re confident that we can help you do the same thing!

What if I want counseling for my relationship but my partner won’t come?

This is part of the reason we have this service. We specialize in providing individual therapy for relationship issues, since we realize that you can’t control your significant other’s decisions. Our therapists can help you work on your part of the relationship. When you are in tune with your needs, emotions, and values, it can deeply inspire your partner and motivate them to work on themselves, too.

What if I become reliant on therapy?

The goal of relationship counseling is sustainability, not keeping you in therapy. This means that you’ll receive coping skills that you can use your whole life. While we are always sad to say goodbye to our clients, we are always excited when clients reach their goals. Throughout therapy, we will consistently evaluate your progress to ensure that you’re on track to meet your relationship goals.

Let Us Help You Work Toward Healthier, Happier Connections

Whether you want help navigating the dating world, making more friends, or simply understanding your deepest relationship needs, Denver CAC is here to help. To learn more about our approach to individual relationship counseling, you can use the contact form or call us at 303-835-6992.

[1] https://spectrumlocalnews.com/tx/south-texas-el-paso/your-mental-health/2024/02/08/almost-half-of-americans-report-stress-about-their-love-life–dating–study-says#:~:text=Nearly%20half%20of%20Americans%20currently,a%20first%20date%20is%20normal